Domestic violence is associated with male batterers and female victimization. The abuse can either be psychological or emotional and it can destroy an individual tremendously. Most abuse occurs between couples either married or staying together this usually as a result of one individual trying to dominate the other which is commonly known as Intimate partner violence. Abusers have traits that are similar to one another they have behavior signatures that are common to violence.
Characteristics of abusers
Characteristics of abusers can either be social, emotional, psychological or physical. An abuser will be extremely violent especially if they find out their partner is leaving them, an abuser will clench his fist every time an argument ensues. He will most probably lash out so as to maintain control over the victim this shows power.
An abuser is usually extremely jealous and will confront you by becoming physically abusive when it comes to arguments. An abuser will be violent at one point and then tends to capture a partners heart once again by being extremely good .He will however have a history of constant violence. He or she will be extremely jealous and will eventually affect your social life by cutting you off your social clique (Hoffman, 2002).
An abuser will eventually get angry and become violent when taking alcohol and drugs. He /She might become angry when intoxicated and this will automatically lead to physical threats or verbal abuse. He will eventually blame his entire violent outburst on you by pointing out how his life has changed. The abuser will have weapons that he has threatened to use them and if there was an arson attempt in his past records can be a weapon. Violent abusers are difficult to predict because they have control issues and are crazy.
Characteristics of abusers in domestic violence
Controlling partners are more often the course of violence in a relationship. The partner might be overprotective by either becoming jealous of other friends either male or female. Accusations of being unfaithful and discourages friends from visiting. The partner will also keep track of what you are doing and criticism on little things (Barri Flowers, 2000).
Demanding and possessive wants you not to associate friends and family and constantly accuses and ridicules them. Manipulative and shows off because he knows she is inferior to him .He becomes abusive verbally and tends to use your tainted past to cause you pain and suffering. A perpetrator has a low self esteem and can only identify themselves by the partnership relations.
Partners may be Irresponsible, immature and childish where he does not take responsibility for himself. He will probably pot ray she fact that he is not reach is because he married you. Partner also blames you for his addictions and behaviors. Violent behaviors by forcing you to have sex un willingly. The partners might threaten to use weapons against you and tends to destroy things in the house when he becomes angry.
Partners who constantly criticize friends, families will try to break the relationship between them. He will be abusive and will blame them for his problems .He or she will be quick tempered and hates to be ordered around and becomes hypersensitive. The abuser will have a low self esteem and their self confidence might fragile.
Another cause of violence in a relationship is Substance abuse. Evidence suggests that substance abuse plays a critical role in partnership violence and is related to men who have a history of violence. Battering is mostly common when an individual is high and they might cause extreme injuries to partners (Barri Flowers, 2000).
A study conducted in 1994 showed that defendants accused of murdering partner were abusing drugs before the incident. It is not necessarily true that most men who take alcohol are abusers and also not all abusers take alcohol. Excessive drinking is dangerous as partners may not be in control of abusive behavior. Partners who abuse alcohol are most likely take their frustrations and blame it on the partners (Hoffman, 2002). Men are said to be the once affected by this the most not excluding women who are equally dangerous.
Drug abuse related abuse are really high according to a US research, substance abuse has been said to cause long term effects on a family. The research showed that substance abuse is directly related to violence example Young men like to abuse drugs and when one is intoxicated it is difficult to control emotions. The over use of drug substances has caused a statistic that has shown a woman is beaten every 15 seconds very disturbing statistics. Substance abuse by youth affects women abuse directly as it is attributed to violent relationships.
According to research a man drinks to be emotionally free from stress. It is not true to say that a man is violent when he is drunk. Violence will never cease when he stops or maybe it will but it has not been proven. Batterers are perceived to take alcohol or drugs to block away the memories of their past. Physical assaulted childhood’s most likely lead to violent individuals. The y takes drugs to remain sane and to push away the thoughts .Violent relationships are mostly related to intoxicated individuals than sober minded men
There has been insufficient evidence to prove alcohol abuse and domestic violence it has been shown to trigger only.
In General substance abuse is common in most homes especially to the younger generation. They tend to express their feelings and emotions with violence other than words. An abuser will try to show who is in power and by rejection by the partner will be equivalent to violence (Hoffman, 2002).In a research done it was shown that pride is also a factor that increase violent reactions .He or she will use force and words like don’t you know how I am or push you away like a piece of paper. Through anger he or she will strike objects and break objects to physically as how he feels.
Intoxicated persons who batter their wives always look for something to blame and they blame substance abuse especially alcohol. It has not been proven that alcohol leads to violent occurrences between partners but it is more often found that intoxicated individuals show no constraint while battering their partners
Barri Flowers, R (2000) Domestic crimes, family violence and child abuse: A study of contemporary American society. (pp. 23-56). North Carolina: McFarland.
Hoffman, R. W. S. A. M. (2002). Domestic violence: A global view. New York: Greenwood Publishing Group.